10 Ways to Get Through Hard Times When You Homeschool or Blog
Hard times can strike at any moment of your homeschool, family, or blogging life. Sometimes challenges can be so impactful that it leads to many families feeling like they have no other choice but to leave homeschooling or Blogging altogether. This is soo so sad! While it can be 100% needed. There are ways and strategies to help ease the burden I’ve found from my own experience homeschooling and walking a healing journey with my son – these past 2 years (tourettes, adhd, allergies, and severe sensory processing disorder).
Currently, I’m using the same approaches for balancing blogging, while going through the ongoing care of my son, and other extended family facing severe health issues. So, because of that – today I felt compelled to share some tips on how to blog and vlog through hardships if you’re also going through something similar. I truly hope you feel more empowered and prepared after reading today’s post! So lets’ dive in..
Before going into the tips in the blog & video, it’s SO important that you process any emotions you haven’t dealt with already in a healthy way. In my experience, trying to work on something while still being emotionally charged – just paves the way for an unhealthy breakdown later on..
Not helping your health or anyone else’s!
If you have yet to, let it out.
If you need to cry – cry.
Tears are spiritually healing. They’re like salt water cleansing the soul. If you dont feel emotional, you can release in other ways that feel right to you. Things such as mentally releasing through journaling your thoughts, feelings, and ideas on paper – will help you gain a birds eye perspective of it all so that you can process it.
If you ARE emotional don’t feel ashamed, *weak*, or guilty about it. Reject the urge to *hold it together* when you feel in your spirit that you need to breakdown. Give yourself a couple days, a week – or as long as you need to grieve and move to a place where you’re ready to start working from a calm yet empowered place.
Is there any “denial” you still have to face? This was a huge thing for me to work through. Even when I thought I had moved passed ALL of it.. it would creep up on me at various points, SO just be mindful of it so that you can deal with it if it does.
But the most important thing is…
Do not shut out any feelings that arise, instead give yourself the permission to feel them fully… and then *process* them mindfully, recognizing that for better or for worse – this IS part of your life story. The light and the dark, the happy and the sad.
Of course at first it can be hard or practically impossible to see it this way – especially when emotions are peaked.
A visualization exercise that really helped me regain hope on days when I thought my son would never improve, or things would stay the same forever was. Picturing him on the *other side* of this (During times when you feel feelings of resisting, regretting, feeling self pitty, or worse.. despair). Visualize a strong bright happy image in a calm and beautiful place. The person is complete strength, fully recuperated – working on a cause or project using one of their gifts…
Doing this will give you a visual (even after just doing it once!) that will help program your brain and fuel you when negative thoughts pop up.
Working Through Chronic Hard Times is Like Being a Soldier at War
You also want to start visualizing yourself as a strong victorious soldier. Some soldiers go to battle only once and get to go home, others are in the war much longer. Don’t compare your healing journey to anyone else’s, and don’t get frustrated or feel like you’re doing something wrong. You’re being constantly guided and supported! Stay in that space.
The difference between ‘real war’ and battling chronic illness of course is.. you’re fighting elements that are invisible. Your tools are faith, research, and the right healing agent(s) that you will be led to oftentimes through trial and error. Since you’re in battle (it can also feel like a maze, Maze Runner style) ASK yourself… what would a soldier do in your position?
Ask yourself, what are the 2 main goals for a soldier whose at war?
Surviving and winning!
Each new discovery or symptom that’s recuperated will be a battle won. When that happens bask in the victory, give yourself rest, and then keep going. Even if you don’t achieve full recovery, knowing you did everything in your power is all we can ever do. Be patient and never lose hope or space for healing. Trust and believe its on its way and it WILL happen.
Soldiers preparing to fight, scale back on everything – to the point that all of their essentials can all fit in a small backpack or less.. The same applies to you right now so that you can focus on what’s important. So the first thing you need to do is:
Determine what your basic needs are.
In homeschooling this means the *main* subjects for the year (I talk more about how to determine what you should be F O C U S ing on in my post How I Homeschool 2nd Grade PT 1) then let go of the rest.
One of the biggest blocks in being able to do this is working past any perfectionist tendencies many of us still have – making it difficult to be *flexible* enough with not doing it all.
Hard times refine us!
You also have to focus on the fact, and trust – that space for you to cover what you need to cover WILL open up in the future. Space can mean working through a holiday, on weekends, over the summer, or at *any* other point (ie. while a sibling is at an activity). As a homeschooler we are creators and managers of our own schedule – remember this is part of the reason you started homeschooling (moreso if you were already a special needs homeschooler when you started homeschooling!).What a blessing to have more time to schedule appointments, take as much down time as you need for any flareups, and to have the option to learn in bed! This is all in your healing’s favor!
– When it comes to Blogging: figure out a comfortable schedule and pattern for getting the content you want to produce out into the world, without sacrificing your bliss. I strongly believe that the energy we put *into* the work we do, matters just as much as the content. No creating when you have low or bad vibes! To guarantee that, I only produce content when I can reach a state of feeling relaxed, joyful, and with a heart of wanting to serve vs. just produce. Blogging in this scenario can be very therapeutic!
Because my time is limited .. I find pockets of it throughout the week to work on *chunks* of tasks to produce my weekly post.
This is what it looks like (the order of what I do is the same even if the days may vary, be flexible with yourself).
– In your Family: Give yourself and your family the permission and TIME to adapt to this new temporary normal. Reassure your children the larger life lessons embedded in this experience .. adapting, resilience, and letting go of what you can’t control (focusing on what you can!). Gratitude for the small and big blessings you have right.now.
Next, you will want to re-evaluate your commitments and keep your family as the priority, so you’ll need to..
Figure out what really needs to get done. What are your BASIC needs? When you think of priorities I want you to think of things you absolutely need to live and your health depends on. Things like: Eating, cleaning, sleeping, exercising, and staying mentally positive.
-So the first, Food:
Meal prep ahead of time, grocery shop for multiple weeks, or have a food delivery service help you with this. If friends or family are offering to cook or make freezer meals for you,gladly accept! Many churches also have programs that help members or community members in need – with meals or groceries, so ask around. When shopping for food in a crisis, avoid junk-food freezer meals. Instead, make sure you have natural and healthy foods that will help you or your family heal while keeping your energies at a high level. Food influences mood! And it will also keep you at the strongest physical state possible.
-Next, Exercise: move and find time to get your oxygen and endorphins flowing (after making sure you have the physical ok to do it if you’re the one facing a chronic illness). I know how hard it can be to schedule this in. Start slow and small.. one day a week, then 2, or 3.. Working out can be as simple as a brisk walk and then moving up from there. Movement helps TREMENDOUSLY in processing big emotions and helping to clear your out stress and cortisol. Make it a family event and take the opportunity to bond at the same time! A dance session in the living room can also count!
Next, Organize Yourself. Since it can get difficult to keep track of what’s being covered curriculum-wise, especially if you have appointments and need to stagger your learning sessions. A planner can support you to get a visual idea of what you’re covering. Without one you may forget to do a subject, or do the subject twice! Follow me on YouTube after watching today’s video below to catch my upcoming videos on the planners I’ve used for homeschooling throughout the years.
While you’re at it add a documentation system as a checks and balances in any area that will allow you to eliminate any mental clutter, this will help you free up mental energies to find solutions to the hardships you’re facing. For instance, for blogging add in a blog planner, and plan out the post topics for the next 2-3 months. I love the Epic Blog Planner by “byRegina”. Even if you cant write all of them in advance, knowing what you’ll be writing will allow you to avoid having to mentally stress over it every week.
For medical or financial things, get a budget or appointment book to keep track of all appointments or due dates. Overdrafting fees add up, and when dealing with medical issues – a great doctor may have a long lead time many months out, so you dont want to miss it when it does come up!
I also can’t stress enough the importance of creating a detailed and organized medical binder with all your labs, diagnoses, and results to help communicate findings to multiple doctors or providers. This not only ensures that you’re getting the most optimal care, but it also cuts down on time required to request the studies from another office (you want the least amount of delay!). No scrambling for papers for you either! #momwin You are the CEO of you,and your child’s health information! I’ve also noticed there’s a palpable difference in how providers treat you when you boss up in this area.
-Next, Be in Peace: If it doesnt bring you peace, let it go (objects, tasks, your own expectations, people, family..). Peace above all things for your family and yourself will help support your bodies’ natural and supported healing – if you’re using medication OR supplements. Start to see hardships as a divine pruning aside from being a life challenge. It will help you reconnect to what’s most important in your life, and help you grow spiritually stronger and wiser. If people or things are straining you emotionally, drop as much weight as you can until your heart feels as light as a feather (one of my new fav Budhist sayings btw!). My recent post on How to Handle Critics, Naysayers and Toxic Comments can help you as a next step to this post.
Develop a New Schedule or Routine:
We are creatures of habit and one of the most upheaveling things is having to adjust our schedules abruptly. Although as adults we can adjust rather quickly – children who typically thrive and yearn for consistency, may experience much stress or difficulty adjusting. This will not help their healing or growth so whenever possible try to make any changes such as new therapies or caring for a family member – as gradual and gentle as possible.
– Develop a schedule for self care. When things get busier, less significant things (in light of the problems) can fall through the cracks, things like remembering to shower! By making it a point to set up a time in the morning before anyone else is awake – you’ll feel refreshed, and cared for throughout the day.
Also, don’t let thoughts like…. “showering, doing my hair can wait. I need another 20 minutes to read this book or article, listen to this video, clean the house, or chat/post a question in this forum/post/thread ..”; stop you from taking care of yourself, it’s a trap! The less you care for yourself the less you can care for others. It’ll also effect the respect (as superficial as it may seem) you get from the professionals you’re going to be interfacing with (people are visual creatures!). But the most important point is it will catch up with you emotionally.. and if you’re anything like me you’ll end up feeling just as disheveled, worn out, and tired as you look!
I hope you enjoyed this post. To get the last 7 Ways to Get Through Hard Times watch today’s video below with other tips and strategies I don’t mention here. My orchid and diffuser are keeping me company! Try to guess what blend Im using (Hint: its from Doterra!).
Remember to find the bliss in everyday, live an intentional life, and keep moving forward.